Surviving after graduation
Our
twenties are supposed to be some of the best days of our lives, or at least so
we’re led to believe. For many of us, we’ve finally (hopefully) gotten to grips
with the reality of University or College, it’s the time when we take our first
steps into the working world, enjoy our first real tastes of freedom, and move
off into the ‘real world’.
In
fact, there is a HELL of a lot of pressure to know what you want to do, who you
want to be, or be in the process of figuring this out. Anyone else? Just me..?
It is TERRIFYING.
One
of the most difficult things for me has been this transition between the
security of university where everyone is in the same boat and the reality of
working a full-time job in a town where you have little to no connection, other
than chance. Being without the support
network that I spent the last four years curating is incredibly difficult. Why
did nobody think to mention this to me? Did I miss the part where we were
warned of how difficult it is to make friends as an adult in a new town? I
really hope I’m not alone in this…
If
I could go back to this time last year and give myself a piece of advice, it
would be to stop worrying about finding a job after university, and instead to
enjoy my final year surrounded by the chosen family I love so much. Take time
away from useless stress and spend dedicated, uninterrupted time with my
friends, because I miss them now more than words can say. It never occurred to
me that this might be my only time to live with my best friend, and I will
never get over how stupid I feel for not taking greater advantage of that.
With
that being said, what can you do to help settle in the transition between
university and adult life?
I
think the first thing I can recommend is not to compare your life to that of
your friends/classmates/that of your parents, especially where social media is
concerned. I know this is far easier said than done, but trust me, it’s a lot
easier if you can remind yourself that the things you see on Facebook and
Instagram are not real life. Your friends are probably just as scared, uncertain
and lonely as you are!
Secondly,
keep in touch!
After
four years with some of your best friends, it’s a huge adjustment moving from
seeing your friends whenever you want, to hardly at all. It’s funny, but I
actually found it harder to text my friends after graduation, because I was
terrified of showing them how alone I felt and seeing them living a life
without me! However, the more I speak to my friends, the easier it is: who’d
have thought? Of course Skype and Facetime aren’t the same as a movie night
with your best friends, but I certainly find it helps me to feel a little more
normal if I can just sit down and chat away with my friends. Those girls will
always be there for me, no matter how far apart we might be!
And
this doesn’t just apply to friends either. Don’t forget about your family,
especially when you’ve moved away from home.
Number
three: Remember that it’s alright not to be alright at first! Taking the plunge
into ‘adult life’ is a huge step, and it’s completely normal to be worried,
lonely, and scared. When you move away from the security of home and university,
it’s going to be tough, but I promise you, it’s worth it to stick it out! This
is maybe the only time in your life where you have the chance to live on your
own and even feel lonely! Leaving home and moving some 300 miles away to my
first job has been DIFFICULT. There have been too many times where I have sat
and cried because I felt like I had made the biggest mistake of my life, but
deep down, I know this has been such a worthwhile learning experience. I’m yet
to feel settled here, four months down the line, but I don’t think I’d give up
this experience for the world.
I
think the best piece of advice I can give, is to be brave and take the plunge. I
know it’s tough, but you are so strong. You can do this. Good luck.
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